Woman finding relief by talking

Men as if by nature usually resist when women start talking to them about their problems and assume that the opposite sex is holding them responsible.
Actually the male did not realize that female will feel relief, better and will appreciate if being attentive to listen when talking to him.
Why men do not want to listen when women talk?
Because when the female is upset, male assume that she is blaming him and if less upset the assumption will be seeking advice.
Normally what happen is, when women ask for advice it means men have to solve the problems.
If men assume she is blaming him then he had to draw up his defense to protect from attack.
Female would just love to continue talking more and more problems when male provide solution after solution trying to make them feel better.
Men will feel rejected and unappreciated if women after receiving solutions still do not feel good or better.
At such, do you think the male will like to listen to female talk?
It is normal, when women start attacking; men will defend by explaining without realizing it is not the explanations required, instead she want him to understand her feelings.
Such actions will make the female more upset, so if the opposite sex is wise, just listen first allow her to complain later on she will change the subject.
But women must not bring up problems that men cannot solve, because it will make them frustrated and will heat up ending in argument.
Smart female can always use diplomatic approach.
It can be expressing their worries, frustrations and disappointments, letting him to understand it are merely to feel relief.
Too many details in the women talk will also make men impatient because they will assume she is pushing for immediate solution.
In addition, male always look for the bottom line and the outcome otherwise he cannot formulate solution, so she must try to simplified details in her talk.
There is way to avoid making men frustrated is to give advance outcome of the complaint and provide details later.
Do not keep him in suspense although most female love letting suspense build because it can create more feeling in their story.
It will be alright to do so with other women but not for men, it makes them feel frustrated.
It will be wise, if the male can tolerate to listen to her complains, so that she can feel being cared, supported and understood with ease.
Furthermore, if men learn more how to fulfill a woman by emotional support, he will discover that listening to her talk is not so difficult after all.
Critically, it is more important that women must remind that men are not blamed or have to solve their problems.
But just wish to talk in order to feel relief and good.
Such understanding will make men more relax to listen to women talk.
For both partners to live together in peace, it must make to understand and respect individual natural differences.
It mean men must understand that women release their tension by openly talk and she also must realise he need to go in retreat to cope stress.

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How many of us realise or aware women and men are supposed to different and are at odds with each another?

How a divorce does begin?

Without realising the important truth, we tend to get frustrated and angry with the opposite sex.

Actually it is just we want the opposite sex to agree to our feelings; get what we want; do what we want them to do; and to follow our desires and commands.

It is wrongly assume that if someone loves you; they will behave like us, act like us or follow our ways of living.

Having such attitude, we are denied or being prevent ourselves from taking into consideration by giving more necessary time to communicate and check the differences within both sexes.

Therefore it sets up disappointment after another and mistakenly expects the opposite sex to behave, talk, understand, communicate, feel and respond like each another.

As a matter of fact, because of the natural differences, the relationship starts to be filled up with undesirable conflicts and frictions.

To reduce such confusion, it is important to clearly recognize in respecting such differences while dealing with the opposite sex.

Do not forget, God created men as Adam and women as Eve so everything had to be sort out and to be well explained.

To eradicate the mistakes, we need to explore both sexes’ values which are inherently difference and not to make mistake by offering solutions and invalidate feelings while another side offers unsolicited advices, command and directions.

So by checking the differences, we will be able to immediately make up responses to each another with more productive methods.

Instead of feeling being “what is so bothering in our relationship” both sexes need to create some strategies to do away with conflicts at times.

It will be a great challenge that the male know how to overcome their resistance in giving love to the opposite sex and the female must also need to overcome their resistance in receiving love.


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